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Wedding Game Planning with the Coach

This past week “The Coach” and I had the opportunity to sit down, really talk and get down to the business of planning our wedding.  Personally I enjoy watching him do what he loves, it is so natural to him to coach, lead and mentor young men, and analyze and strategize the game of football.  His coaching expertise he was able to transfer to our wedding game planning.

Since we reconnected now almost 3 years ago I have seen him coach on three different levels; collegiate, professional and now high school.  So though we became engaged in May 2011, just before football season began, I knew that once the season had started, getting him to focus on wedding planning would be near to impossible.  During the season I did make a few trips out to visit with him.  We called them wedding scouting trips, me being his director of personnel:)  While most of his focus was spent coaching and mine on supporting him; we got the opportunity to pick each other’s brains a bit to discover our likes and dislikes.  For example, we addressed questions like… what type of budget were we both willing to commit to?  Were we going to elope? Would we have a destination wedding?  Where would we honeymoon?  We also touched on the topic of relocation since both of us currently live in two different states.

During those visits we agreed that we should complete the important elements of the wedding game planning, like setting a date, confirming a venue and the type of wedding we were going to have before the New Year.  Since I was also armed with the knowledge that during pre-season 2012; when the kids would be let out for the summer would be the perfect time for us to aim for setting the date for our big day and our honeymoon.  So all through last year’s season and post as his Coach’s Wife-to-Be I have been doing my part by scouting… I mean researching and submitting request for proposals to prospective vendors and venues, tapping my network of friends who had recently gotten married for tips and tricks.

So now that we are knee deep in the planning with a good amount of our wedding “To Do List” items executed.  I feel a sense of peace and relief.  I can honestly say that I am truly enjoying the process and pray that as we are not only planning for our wedding but for our marriage together we both continue to look at this as fantastic journey of new discovery.

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Lela Fagan (Jefferson) is the author of the book “Poetry of a Black Girl: The Darkness and the Light” and lead blogger at “Memoirs of a Black Girl”. Lela is an avid reader “A Real Bookworm” of all things in print. She finds joy in sharing socially and blogging about topics that matter the most to her. Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. Lela now lives in Houston, TX with her husband Oji, an educator and Football Coach. @LelaJefferson - See more at:

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