Relationships
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The first man to ever break my heart name was Daddy
First, before I even get any further than the title of this piece; let me make it abundantly clear that I had a wonderful relationship with my father. He was very present in my life. I knew who he was, and he provided for me emotionally, mentally, physically (with his presence) and financially since before my birth and beyond my 21st year. However, he was human and so was born flawed. I lost my Dad suddenly a little over a month after turning 22, within a week of the one year anniversary of working at my first “big girl” job and moving into my first apartment. The day before he…
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And so a new journey has begun
I am stretching my neck out in faith and expectancy for some particular things in the upcoming year. While preparing to do so, I have decided to read and blog about my journey; so that I can have a tangible record of this season in my life. To be honest, in one of my private times with God, he told me I needed to utilize my love for the language arts especially reading and writing because my testimony may bless another woman going through a similar journey. There are some books, web links, audio and video message I have stockpiled and nibbled on bits and pieces from time to time…
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1 of the three men I was honored to call my Godfather
Not every child is blessed with Godparents! People chosen to watch over their spiritual development; charged to step in if their parents ever cannot. In my case I was blessed with 4 Godparents 3 of which were my Godfathers. Each of my Godfathers has gone to be with the Lord. The most recent one to pass was late last week. My Godfather James was a US Army veteran, entrepreneur, and a very proud man that loved his family. He was also my mother’s first husband, her first love and last. My father was her second. They were both born on the same day, just a year apart. As a young…
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Be a better communicator!
The word I got in my spirit this morning was to be a better communicator. My big sister-cousin pointed out something to me the other week that I thought was hilarious because it is so true. She told me that she found it odd that I was such a social butterfly, but am private in the areas where I need others the most. Her assessment I know had a lot of validity to it because; well she has known me my entire life for one. Two she is professionally trained to diagnose my craziness, she is a Ph.D. candidate in Clinical Psychology. For whatever reason, now at age 35, I am…
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His Grace is MORE Than Sufficient… Enough for Me
The other day I had many opportunities where I wanted and could have been selfish with my time. It seemed that everyone one of my clients had an urgent issue on what was supposed to be my day off. I had to check my attitude a few times and put my grown self on a timeout, literally and figuratively. Yes, I am woman enough to say… I walked into my bedroom, shut the door and then the walk-in closet and screamed “Help me Jesus!” Don’t get me wrong, I love assisting others. It’s one of the areas I have been graced in. However, I am learning how to find balance in…
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Trust in His Timing
We don’t attempt to speed up the process of baking a cake because we know if we do it may end up flat. Why then do we try to rush God in regards to his timing and seeing manifestations of the blessing in our lives? Everything happens in God’s perfect timing. So, rest assured He has you covered. Just stay in faith! #LOVEFORWARD
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Running With the Vision
One of the things I have learned in my almost 10 years as serving as a steward and assistant in ministry is this… At the time the leader is casting the vision, your heart has to be willing to receive it. Once you do, you can conceive it for yourself. You become a surrogate of that vision. Now, as it is developing within you… It’s your responsibility to speak life into it, prepare for its birth by setting up systems and processes so it can be successful once presented to the world. And even after it has begun to take its first steps and strides…. It’s still your job to continue…
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5 Funny Things That Happened During & After Our Wedding Ceremony
On this upcoming Monday, the Hubby Coach and I will be celebrating our 2nd Wedding Anniversary! I am super excited because I think I am more in love with him now than ever before. We were married on June 9th, 2012 in the Great Lakes Garden in Niagara Falls State Park (Niagara Falls, NY.) I thought to commemorate the date; I would share a few funny things that happened on our special day. Here are 5 funny things that happened during and after our wedding ceremony…. Our brother-in-love who married us made me say my vows twice. I don’t know why, but he did! I actually forgot to put Oji’s ring on his…
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This may seem random… You were on my heart.
The other day I felt led to just say thank you to sister-friends that have played pivotal roles in my life’s journey. Many of them I do not speak to on a regular basis offline. The last time I might have seen some of them is as much as 20 years ago! However, because of technology we are connected to each other through social media. So, while, on the phone with my sister, I updated my Facebook status and began going through my contacts and tagging ladies to the post. The response was lightening fast and powerful! It became an all out love fest that has lasted most…
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Going Beyond the Mask
I recently had a profound conversation with my sister. We were talking about behavior labeling. I have said that I was an introvert for years. It’s not what I am by nature. I am an extrovert with introvert like tendencies. However, because of life, I had adapted the full labeling of an introvert to protect myself from being hurt by others. People have misunderstood me many times. I have been told that I seemed aloof or standoffish. I didn’t want to be. Internally my inner extrovert was screaming “Here I am, let’s be friends!” The mask I wore daily in the world; to shield me from hurt said different. It…