Lela Fagan - Memoirs of a Black Girl

From Throwback Thursday to Flashback Friday to Saturday and Beyond: Let the Purging Begin!

Lela Fagan May 31, 2025

Every summer, my spirit starts whispering “declutter, sis.” And this year? I’m listening. I’m deep diving into papers, closets, garages, and forgotten storage units—not just to clean, but to make room for what’s next.

The Weight of a Name: A Lesson for My Son

Lela Fagan May 28, 2025

🧠💛 Today, I reminded my son Tyson that he carries three names—child of God, his own, and his family’s. When our babies understand who they are, they grow into who they’re meant to be.

“No” Is a Complete Sentence: Faith, Boundaries & Freedom

Lela Fagan May 23, 2025

There’s something sacred about a woman who can say “No.” without flinching, without apologizing. Jesus didn’t say “Yes” to every request—and neither should you. Boundaries are biblical. Rest is righteous. Peace is holy. Let’s honor the God in us by protecting our capacity. 🙏🏾

The Blessing of Elder Women: How Their Wisdom Shaped My Life

Lela Fagan May 15, 2025

✨ Elder women have been my Naomis—guiding, nurturing, and loving me since my mother's passing. Discover how their wisdom transformed my life. Read more at memoirsofablackgirl.com. 🌿 #FaithJourney #MemoirsOfABlackGirl @LelaJFagan

Walking in Your Calling: Why Faith Will Always Cost You Something

Lela Fagan May 12, 2025

There’s something deeply sobering about the way people react when you step into your purpose—especially when those people are the ones who know you best. Mark 6:1-29 NLT is a chapter that doesn’t just speak—it shouts. It tells two stories that seem separate but are inextricably linked by a common theme: the cost of calling.

He Could Never Be Satisfied: What King Solomon and Hamilton Teach Us About Legacy, Ego, and Obedience

Lela Fagan April 30, 2025

“Legacy isn’t built on brilliance alone—it’s shaped by obedience.” What does the wisest king in the Bible have in common with Broadway’s most lyrical legend? A cautionary tale of ambition, approval, and the downfall of men who flew too close to the sun.

What a Baby Sparrow Taught Me About Faith in Action

Lela Fagan April 27, 2025

Originally penned 11 years ago, this reflection remains close to my heart. Sometimes the smallest moments—like a fallen sparrow—carry the biggest lessons. I’ve revisited and refreshed this piece for Memoirs of a Black Girl, but its core message of faith in action stands timeless.

Boxes, Books, and Breakthroughs: How One Apartment Shaped My Journey

Lela Fagan April 26, 2025

Editor’s Note: Originally written over a decade ago, this reflection captures a pivotal moment in my journey—closing one chapter and stepping boldly into the next. As you read, I invite you to walk with me through the halls of memory, faith, and healing. — Lela J. Fagan

I Must Respectfully Disagree: A Testimony of Faith, Family, and Growth

Lela Fagan April 25, 2025

10 years ago, I survived a crash that should’ve taken me. But God. 🙌🏾 This Flashback Friday, I’m sharing my testimony and why I had to “respectfully disagree” with family on the road to healing. 👉🏾

Lessons from the Hubby Coach: Faith, Fear, and Country Roads

Lela Fagan April 21, 2025

Some lessons don’t come in sermons or self-help books. Sometimes, they show up on backroads at dusk, with your husband coaching from the passenger seat and your heart racing with more than just traffic fear.

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A Band-Aid is Not a Cure: Teaching Kids Real Accountability

Lela Fagan April 14, 2025

This morning, I had to teach my son that “sorry” is just a Band-Aid. It covers a wound, but it doesn’t heal it—especially if you keep ripping it open. 🩹 Read how one before-school moment became a full-on life lesson.

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An Open Letter to My Nieces: I Wish You Had Known Her, My Mama

Lela Fagan April 11, 2025

I wish you had known her... Twelve years ago, I wrote a letter to my nieces introducing them to their grandmother — my Mama. Today, I share it again, because her legacy still lives through us.

You Can Be Replaced: A Story of Bitterness, Burnout, and God’s Grace

Lela Fagan April 10, 2025

I trained my replacement without knowing it. I thought the favor would keep me in position. But the grace had lifted. The anointing was gone. Here’s what Saul taught me about obedience, pride, and letting go.

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I Am the Mama: When God Births a Calling, Not Just a Baby

Lela Fagan April 8, 2025

7 years ago, we said yes to a different kind of parenting path. We leaned on God, leaned into each other, and trusted that the story would be beautiful—and it is.

You Asked God to Use You… So Why Are You Running?

Lela Fagan April 7, 2025

You asked God to use you… so why are you running when He does? Sometimes the call won’t come where you’re comfortable—but it’ll always come where you’re called. Read how I had to surrender my will all over again in a brand new season.