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About Lela Fagan
Lela Jefferson Fagan is a writer, blogger, and passionate storyteller who explores life’s complexities with honesty and depth. She is the author of Poetry of a Black Girl: The Darkness and the Light and the voice behind Memoirs of a Black Girl, where she shares thought-provoking reflections on culture, identity, and personal growth. Born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, Lela now calls Houston, Texas, home, where she lives with her husband, Oji—an athletics administrator and football coach—and their three children. Whether through poetry, blogging, or social media, Lela uses her words to inspire, challenge, and spark meaningful conversations. Follow her on X: @LelaJFagan.
Decoding a Former Workaholic: Then and Now
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Decoding a Former Workaholic: Then and Now

Posted by Lela Fagan August 4, 2025
I used to wear busy like a badge of honor. But what I’ve learned? God never asked me to hustle for His favor. He just asked for my attention.
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Inclusion in Action: An Autism Mama’s Unexpected Blessing
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Inclusion in Action: An Autism Mama’s Unexpected Blessing

Posted by Lela Fagan July 31, 2025
A Grace-Filled First How one summer camp field trip reminded me that with the right…
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Eyes on the Storm: What the Eagle Knows About Leading Well
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Eyes on the Storm: What the Eagle Knows About Leading Well

Posted by Lela Fagan July 18, 2025
The eagle doesn’t run from storms—it rises through them. 🦅 In leadership, storms aren’t setbacks—they’re setups. Discover 4 powerful lessons from the eagle to lead with courage, vision, and heart.
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How Not to Burn Out While Serving: A Prayer for Balance, Compassion, and Overflow
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How Not to Burn Out While Serving: A Prayer for Balance, Compassion, and Overflow

Posted by Lela Fagan July 5, 2025
Sometimes serving others leaves us feeling burnt out and bitter instead of joyful and fulfilled. It doesn’t have to be that way. 💛
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Ashanti Crowns and Soulful Goodbyes: The End of My African Homecoming
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Ashanti Crowns and Soulful Goodbyes: The End of My African Homecoming

Posted by Lela Fagan July 3, 2025
From mosquito-bitten nights in a $2.50 hotel to dancing for the last time on African soil, my final days in Ghana were unforgettable. I became Adawa, saw the Ashanti King, and nearly caused a market riot over a lost camera. Oh—and I watched my dad get chased for wearing a sombrero and biker shorts in Senegal.
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From Brooklyn to the Motherland: My First Trip to Africa at Sixteen
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From Brooklyn to the Motherland: My First Trip to Africa at Sixteen

Posted by Lela Fagan June 29, 2025
We danced in a Fulani village. Rode dune buggies to the Atlantic. Prayed at the ocean’s edge. I missed my mama. We got soaked in rain, witnessed beauty, and learned painful truths. And then we crossed into Ghana…
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From Brooklyn to the Motherland: My First Trip to Africa at Sixteen
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From Brooklyn to the Motherland: My First Trip to Africa at Sixteen

Posted by Lela Fagan June 29, 2025
In the summer of 1994, I boarded a plane for the very first time—with a passport, a notebook, and a dream. At sixteen, I left Brooklyn and journeyed with my dad, aunt, and cousin to Senegal and Ghana for what became a soul-shifting trip to the Motherland.
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 My Funko Pop Rotation: How a Black Girl’s Office Shelf Tells a Story
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 My Funko Pop Rotation: How a Black Girl’s Office Shelf Tells a Story

Posted by Lela Fagan June 28, 2025
Discover how I rotate my Funko Pop collection—from Wakanda to classic TV—and why it’s more than a shelf; it’s a story of joy, culture, and legacy.
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Practical Holiness: Living From the Inside Out
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Practical Holiness: Living From the Inside Out

Posted by Lela Fagan June 28, 2025
While flipping through one of my old Bible study notebooks from over thirteen years ago,…
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When Fear Knocks, Let Faith Answer
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When Fear Knocks, Let Faith Answer

Posted by Lela Fagan June 28, 2025
🕊️ When fear comes knocking, don’t leave it on read—let faith answer the door with the Word as backup. This summer, I’m decluttering more than closets. I’m clearing out the lies fear told me and making room for bold, faith-filled action.
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Auntie Wisdom: Why Your Parents Really Do Understand You
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Auntie Wisdom: Why Your Parents Really Do Understand You

Posted by Lela Fagan June 21, 2025
Being the “cool Auntie” means knowing when to listen and when to drop a gem. I wrote this a decade ago—before motherhood—and now it hits even deeper.
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Dear Hearts: A Healing Letter to All My Nieces and Nephews
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Dear Hearts: A Healing Letter to All My Nieces and Nephews

Posted by Lela Fagan June 17, 2025
Grief doesn’t knock before it shows up. But neither does healing. Read this open letter from Auntie Lela to all her nieces and nephews about life, loss, and choosing to live again.
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A Renaissance Man in Reeboks: Remembering My Father’s Quiet Genius
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A Renaissance Man in Reeboks: Remembering My Father’s Quiet Genius

Posted by Lela Fagan June 15, 2025
Some men leave behind estates.Others leave behind empires.My father? He left behind legacy. He was…
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Happy Father’s Day to Our Forever Head Coach — Oji Fagan
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Happy Father’s Day to Our Forever Head Coach — Oji Fagan

Posted by Lela Fagan June 15, 2025
From the sidelines of the field to the heart of our home, you lead with…
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The Daily Grace of Parenting Neurodivergent Children: A Mama’s Story
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The Daily Grace of Parenting Neurodivergent Children: A Mama’s Story

Posted by Lela Fagan June 4, 2025
Parenting neurodivergent children requires deep listening, daily grace, and limitless love. In my latest blog post, I reflect on raising my three beautifully unique kids—and how God meets me in the moments in between.
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From Throwback Thursday to Flashback Friday to Saturday and Beyond: Let the Purging Begin!
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From Throwback Thursday to Flashback Friday to Saturday and Beyond: Let the Purging Begin!

Posted by Lela Fagan May 31, 2025
Every summer, my spirit starts whispering “declutter, sis.” And this year? I’m listening. I’m deep diving into papers, closets, garages, and forgotten storage units—not just to clean, but to make room for what’s next.
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The Weight of a Name: A Lesson for My Son
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The Weight of a Name: A Lesson for My Son

Posted by Lela Fagan May 28, 2025
🧠💛 Today, I reminded my son Tyson that he carries three names—child of God, his own, and his family’s. When our babies understand who they are, they grow into who they’re meant to be.
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“No” Is a Complete Sentence: Faith, Boundaries & Freedom
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“No” Is a Complete Sentence: Faith, Boundaries & Freedom

Posted by Lela Fagan May 23, 2025
There’s something sacred about a woman who can say “No.” without flinching, without apologizing. Jesus didn’t say “Yes” to every request—and neither should you. Boundaries are biblical. Rest is righteous. Peace is holy. Let’s honor the God in us by protecting our capacity. 🙏🏾
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The Blessing of Elder Women: How Their Wisdom Shaped My Life
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The Blessing of Elder Women: How Their Wisdom Shaped My Life

Posted by Lela Fagan May 15, 2025
✨ Elder women have been my Naomis—guiding, nurturing, and loving me since my mother's passing. Discover how their wisdom transformed my life. Read more at memoirsofablackgirl.com. 🌿 #FaithJourney #MemoirsOfABlackGirl @LelaJFagan
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Walking in Your Calling: Why Faith Will Always Cost You Something
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Walking in Your Calling: Why Faith Will Always Cost You Something

Posted by Lela Fagan May 12, 2025
There’s something deeply sobering about the way people react when you step into your purpose—especially when those people are the ones who know you best. Mark 6:1-29 NLT is a chapter that doesn’t just speak—it shouts. It tells two stories that seem separate but are inextricably linked by a common theme: the cost of calling.
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