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Same Woman, Different Crown (Part I): Why I Call My Wigs “Hats”
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Same Woman, Different Crown (Part I): Why I Call My Wigs “Hats”

Posted by Lela Fagan January 24, 2026
A memoir-style reflection on identity, marriage, Black womanhood, and why changing hairstyles became part of a long-distance love story and a joyful, evolving marriage.
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When “No” Becomes Necessary: Embracing Change, Growth, and New Seasons as a Family
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When “No” Becomes Necessary: Embracing Change, Growth, and New Seasons as a Family

Posted by Lela Fagan January 8, 2026
Change doesn’t ask permission—it arrives, demanding clarity and courage. As a mother, wife, and senior administrative support staff member, I’m navigating a season where growth requires honest reflection, intentional action, and the willingness to let some chapters end so new ones can begin.
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I Must Respectfully Disagree: A Testimony of Faith, Family, and Growth
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I Must Respectfully Disagree: A Testimony of Faith, Family, and Growth

Posted by Lela Fagan April 25, 2025
10 years ago, I survived a crash that should’ve taken me. But God. 🙌🏾 This Flashback Friday, I’m sharing my testimony and why I had to “respectfully disagree” with family on the road to healing. 👉🏾
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Lessons from the Hubby Coach: Faith, Fear, and Country Roads
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Lessons from the Hubby Coach: Faith, Fear, and Country Roads

Posted by Lela Fagan April 21, 2025
Some lessons don’t come in sermons or self-help books. Sometimes, they show up on backroads at dusk, with your husband coaching from the passenger seat and your heart racing with more than just traffic fear.
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I Am the Mama: When God Births a Calling, Not Just a Baby
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I Am the Mama: When God Births a Calling, Not Just a Baby

Posted by Lela Fagan April 8, 2025
7 years ago, we said yes to a different kind of parenting path. We leaned on God, leaned into each other, and trusted that the story would be beautiful—and it is.
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You Asked God to Use You… So Why Are You Running?
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You Asked God to Use You… So Why Are You Running?

Posted by Lela Fagan April 7, 2025
You asked God to use you… so why are you running when He does? Sometimes the call won’t come where you’re comfortable—but it’ll always come where you’re called. Read how I had to surrender my will all over again in a brand new season.
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Wedding photo of Oji and Lela Fagan.
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5 Funny Things That Happened During & After Our Wedding Ceremony

Posted by Lela Fagan March 30, 2025
The Hubby Coach and I will celebrate our 13th Wedding Anniversary in a couple of…
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A Sunday Morning Drive: Small Moments, Big Blessings
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A Sunday Morning Drive: Small Moments, Big Blessings

Posted by Lela Fagan March 25, 2025
Sunday, September 8, 2013 This morning, my husband and I got up early and decided…
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Finding Independence Behind the Wheel
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Finding Independence Behind the Wheel

Posted by Lela Fagan March 25, 2025
Saturday, August 31, 2013 The high of passing my road test still lingers, but this…
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 Connecting the Dots… I Already Know You Know How to Drive.
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 Connecting the Dots… I Already Know You Know How to Drive.

Posted by Lela Fagan March 24, 2025
Friday, August 30, 2013Today, I’m going for my second attempt at passing the Texas road…
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Stepping Out in Faith: The Journey to My Road Test Victory
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Stepping Out in Faith: The Journey to My Road Test Victory

Posted by Lela Fagan March 23, 2025
Sunday, August 25, 2013 Today, my husband had me driving everywhere in my new car,…
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The Journey to “Favor”: Trusting God in the Process
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The Journey to “Favor”: Trusting God in the Process

Posted by Lela Fagan March 23, 2025
Thursday, August 22, 2013 I woke up with a sense of purpose today. Feeling led…
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By Myself… I Could Not Even Get Outside Of The Parking Lot!
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By Myself… I Could Not Even Get Outside Of The Parking Lot!

Posted by Lela Fagan March 23, 2025
Introduction: Life has a way of throwing unexpected moments at us, and sometimes, those moments…
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Learning How to Communicate Effectively as a Newlywed
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Learning How to Communicate Effectively as a Newlywed

Posted by Lela Fagan January 6, 2024
July 2013 Marriage is a journey of learning, adapting, and growing—especially when it comes to…
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The Day I Became Hannah: Choosing Family After Fibroids
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The Day I Became Hannah: Choosing Family After Fibroids

Posted by Lela Fagan December 23, 2023
“They said I might be barren. I said I’d be a mother. God never told me how—just that I would be.” 💜 #FaithOverFear #HealingJourney #MyomectomyRecovery #InfertilityAwareness #FaithStory #MemoirsOfABlackGirl
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