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Lessons from the Hubby Coach: Faith, Fear, and Country Roads
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Lessons from the Hubby Coach: Faith, Fear, and Country Roads

Posted by Lela Fagan April 21, 2025
Some lessons don’t come in sermons or self-help books. Sometimes, they show up on backroads at dusk, with your husband coaching from the passenger seat and your heart racing with more than just traffic fear.
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A Band-Aid is Not a Cure: Teaching Kids Real Accountability
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A Band-Aid is Not a Cure: Teaching Kids Real Accountability

Posted by Lela Fagan April 14, 2025
This morning, I had to teach my son that “sorry” is just a Band-Aid. It covers a wound, but it doesn’t heal it—especially if you keep ripping it open. 🩹 Read how one before-school moment became a full-on life lesson.
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An Open Letter to My Nieces: I Wish You Had Known Her, My Mama
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An Open Letter to My Nieces: I Wish You Had Known Her, My Mama

Posted by Lela Fagan April 11, 2025
I wish you had known her... Twelve years ago, I wrote a letter to my nieces introducing them to their grandmother — my Mama. Today, I share it again, because her legacy still lives through us.
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You Can Be Replaced: A Story of Bitterness, Burnout, and God’s Grace
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You Can Be Replaced: A Story of Bitterness, Burnout, and God’s Grace

Posted by Lela Fagan April 10, 2025
I trained my replacement without knowing it. I thought the favor would keep me in position. But the grace had lifted. The anointing was gone. Here’s what Saul taught me about obedience, pride, and letting go.
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I Am the Mama: When God Births a Calling, Not Just a Baby
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I Am the Mama: When God Births a Calling, Not Just a Baby

Posted by Lela Fagan April 8, 2025
7 years ago, we said yes to a different kind of parenting path. We leaned on God, leaned into each other, and trusted that the story would be beautiful—and it is.
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You Asked God to Use You… So Why Are You Running?
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You Asked God to Use You… So Why Are You Running?

Posted by Lela Fagan April 7, 2025
You asked God to use you… so why are you running when He does? Sometimes the call won’t come where you’re comfortable—but it’ll always come where you’re called. Read how I had to surrender my will all over again in a brand new season.
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Don’t Discount Your Past
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Don’t Discount Your Past

Posted by Lela Fagan April 6, 2025
When I look back over my life—what I’ve been through, where I’ve been, and the…
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Distractions Are Destiny Robbers
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Distractions Are Destiny Robbers

Posted by Lela Fagan April 5, 2025
The other morning, I sat down to tackle my to-do list and quickly realized I…
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Godfather and Godchild at playground
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One of the Three Men I Was Honored to Call My Godfather

Posted by Lela Fagan April 2, 2025
Not every child is blessed with godparents—people chosen to guide their spiritual journey and, if…
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Wedding photo of Oji and Lela Fagan.
Posted inLatest News Marriage Relationships

5 Funny Things That Happened During & After Our Wedding Ceremony

Posted by Lela Fagan March 30, 2025
The Hubby Coach and I will celebrate our 13th Wedding Anniversary in a couple of…
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Making That Necessary 180-Degree Turn
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Making That Necessary 180-Degree Turn

Posted by Lela Fagan March 30, 2025
Lord, today I come before You with a humble heart, acknowledging the profound transformation You…
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A Sunday Morning Drive: Small Moments, Big Blessings
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A Sunday Morning Drive: Small Moments, Big Blessings

Posted by Lela Fagan March 25, 2025
Sunday, September 8, 2013 This morning, my husband and I got up early and decided…
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Finding Independence Behind the Wheel
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Finding Independence Behind the Wheel

Posted by Lela Fagan March 25, 2025
Saturday, August 31, 2013 The high of passing my road test still lingers, but this…
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 Connecting the Dots… I Already Know You Know How to Drive.
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 Connecting the Dots… I Already Know You Know How to Drive.

Posted by Lela Fagan March 24, 2025
Friday, August 30, 2013Today, I’m going for my second attempt at passing the Texas road…
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Stepping Out in Faith: The Journey to My Road Test Victory
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Stepping Out in Faith: The Journey to My Road Test Victory

Posted by Lela Fagan March 23, 2025
Sunday, August 25, 2013 Today, my husband had me driving everywhere in my new car,…
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By Myself… I Could Not Even Get Outside Of The Parking Lot!
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By Myself… I Could Not Even Get Outside Of The Parking Lot!

Posted by Lela Fagan March 23, 2025
Introduction: Life has a way of throwing unexpected moments at us, and sometimes, those moments…
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Black woman worshipping
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Living Through Service, Finding Life in Worship

Posted by Lela Fagan March 17, 2025
Music has a unique ability to rise above the confines of language, allowing us to…
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Learning How to Communicate Effectively as a Newlywed
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Learning How to Communicate Effectively as a Newlywed

Posted by Lela Fagan January 6, 2024
July 2013 Marriage is a journey of learning, adapting, and growing—especially when it comes to…
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The Day I Became Hannah: Choosing Family After Fibroids
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The Day I Became Hannah: Choosing Family After Fibroids

Posted by Lela Fagan December 23, 2023
“They said I might be barren. I said I’d be a mother. God never told me how—just that I would be.” 💜 #FaithOverFear #HealingJourney #MyomectomyRecovery #InfertilityAwareness #FaithStory #MemoirsOfABlackGirl
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The Day I Became Hannah: Navigating Uterine Fibroids and Faith-Based Healing
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The Day I Became Hannah: Navigating Uterine Fibroids and Faith-Based Healing

Posted by Lela Fagan December 22, 2023
What happens when the fight for motherhood meets faith? “She asked who I was. I said, ‘My name is Hannah.’” I’m sharing Part One of my myomectomy memoir—a story of healing, hope, and identity.
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Recent Posts

  • Lessons from the Hubby Coach: Faith, Fear, and Country Roads
  • A Band-Aid is Not a Cure: Teaching Kids Real Accountability
  • An Open Letter to My Nieces: I Wish You Had Known Her, My Mama
  • You Can Be Replaced: A Story of Bitterness, Burnout, and God’s Grace
  • I Am the Mama: When God Births a Calling, Not Just a Baby

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